From Mom…I know that (her husband) would go ape if I said yes. I know that you usually get angry when I say no but I have to live with him and I can’t deal with the drama these days. I don’t make enough money to be as independent as I use to be. I don’t keep (my nephews) overnight either. In fact, I only keep them when he is not here. Sorry! Before you know it Cameron will be old enough to leave him home alone. In just a few years things will change. Before you know it he will be gone off to school and Corey will be gone and you will have done your job as a mom.
Well Cam is 13 so in 5 years I am home free! I don’t know why I didn’t think of that before. I just need to wait 5 more years I already have 18 behind me and then I can leave solitary confinement because my job will be done. I don’t get angry because she says no I get angry because of the reasons she gives. First she couldn’t handle Corey and now it’s her husband doesn’t want her grandkids around? Not to mention I don’t know anyone with an 18 year old still chained to the house the way I am because of childcare issues. I can’t leave Corey alone at all and I can’t leave Corey to care for Cam the way I was charged to do with my brothers from 13 on. So when she says just suck it up it’s almost over I want to scream. How exactly will this be over for me? Is there going to be some miracle that swoops in from the sky that makes my job done? Someone is going to come to my house in a few years and give me my gold star and say ok Cat your job is done you are free to go. I stopped asking her to help with Corey at least 10 years ago. And my SIL and I work full time, we don’t make the money to be jet setters, so it’s not like mom spends a lot of her free time with her children banging down her door looking for a babysitter. It’s just weird to me to have grandkids in the same city that you might see once a month for a couple of hours. Or when school is in it might be 2 or 3 months before she sees them. Since I don’t want to hear the complaints she is down to twice or maybe three times a year with Corey. Isn’t that strange? Isn’t it strange for a guy to marry someone with 3 children and 4 grandchildren and never want them around??? Or for mom to marry someone and live with someone and not be allowed to have her family around.
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November 6, 2009 at 7:37 am
I used to get upset over my parents’ relationship with my kids too – like yours my dad sees my kids maybe once every 3 months and my mom about once a year (she has somewhat of an excuse, she lives in FL but even when we visit her she really doesn’t do much with them). I think some people were just not meant to be grandparents. It bothers me a lot that they don’t have grandparents like I had (the most AWESOME in the world on both sides) but there’s not much I can do about it. I feel for ya.